We’ve all heard that little voice in our head telling us we weren’t worthy of something or that we have totally ruined our career because of some little mistake we made. That inner voice can be quite helpful in truly dangerous situations, but too often it over-reacts. That’s why we need to take charge of the little fellow and make him be more positive.Want to enact true change? You need to get control of your inner voice. Click To Tweet
The voice in our head is in there to make sense of what is happening around us. Unfortunately, it hasn’t evolved much since we first climbed down from the trees onto the Serengeti Plains. Then, it was always looking out for lions and other predators. It’s job was to look for threats. Not all of our self-talk, thankfully, is hard-wired. We can change some habits and change the tone of the voice.
Words – even those we don’t say aloud – have great power. According to an article in Gateways To Inner Peace,
Try this little exercise by saying this to yourself – “Everything goes wrong for me. I always have such bad luck! I can’t trust anyone and I get ripped off all the time! My health is always poor, and I’ll probably die of some horrible disease!” Does it make you feel uncomfortable? You probably didn’t want to say it at all. This example is a bit extreme, but it demonstrates that words are not just words – they have an energy and a vibration just like everything else. And they will affect your mood and your own energy vibration. So can you imagine the effect that constant negative self talk can have on you over a period of time?
So, let’s look at some ways to turn that self-talk to our favor. Psychologist Ben Martin tells us that we need to discover other ways of thinking about your situation.
Look for alternative explanations
- Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?
- What else could this mean?
- If I were being positive, how would I perceive this situation?
Putting it in perspective
Is this situation as bad as I am making out to be?
What is the worst thing that could happen? How likely is it?
What is the best thing that could happen?
What is most likely to happen?
Is there anything good about this situation?
Will this matter in five years time?
A final tip involves giving your inner voice a foolish or silly name. By adding some levity, you can laugh off some of the naysaying. So, tell your inner Debby Downer to take a hike, then channel change!