- Your challenge: commit to 30 days of speaking no evil. In other words, for the next month, stop complaining and stop obsessing over perceived negatives in your life. So, do as your Mother told you, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” This is not an easy challenge. We all get into a vicious cycle of complaining, looking for the bad, and group complaining, particularly at work. If you slip up, notice it and move on. You don’t have to start the 30 days all over again. Give it a try and see if you don’t start developing a more positive outlook.
What’s your biggest fear? All of us fear something, from taking risks to public speaking. CBS News recently reported on the top 10 fears of Americans,
A random sample of more than 1,500 adults from across the country answered questions about 88 fears covering a broad spectrum of categories, including fears of the government, crime, disasters, the environment, the future, technology, sickness and aging. The researchers also included questions about personal anxieties, such as claustrophobia, clowns and public speaking.
The things we fear – like clowns – often appear silly when we examine them in the cold light of day. As Mark Twain said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” Fear keeps us in the same place, prevents us from growing and improving. The first step is to name your fear, and then conquer it. Our digital colleagues at WakeUpCloud published 33 ways to overcome fear. Give it a read and address your fear this week.
Do you really know yourself, your weaknesses, your strengths, and things that annoy your friends and family? Have you ever thought about doing an anonymous survey of friends and family to find out your blindspots – the things you may not know about how others perceive you? I did this one time a few years back as an exercise in discovering how closely the Harry Hoover brand in my head aligned with reality. It was an eye-opening experience. I asked questions such as:
- What is the first word that comes to mind that you’d use to describe me?
- What adjectives would you use to describe me? (this is the one that got interesting)
- What is my biggest strength?
- What is my biggest weakness?
You can get a free account at SurveyMonkey and use it to ask up to 10 questions of 100 people anonymously.
Are there any energy vampires in your life? You know, those people whose negative energy just sucks the life and happiness right out of you. Guess what? When you hang around these vampires too long, you become one. There’s a good article at Personal Excellence that deals with how to handle this situation,
The challenge with dealing with negative people is that interactions with them tend to be draining. No matter what you say, they always have a negative opinion to offer. When something positive happens, they are quick to excuse that as a one-off or point out the black lining to the situation. When they have a problem, they prefer to victimize and complain, rather than work out a solution. To negative people, life sucks.
While we sometimes associate critical people as negative people, I want to highlight that they’re not always the same. Critical people have a tendency to criticize, at times even insult, others. Critical people can be sarcastic and tactless, often stepping on people’s toes. On the other hand, negative people may not necessarily be critical toward others. What they carry is a pessimistic and self-defeatist attitude toward life.
The post provides eight points in how to deal with energy vampires.
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