Your challenge: Write out your bucket list. Webster defines a bucket list this way:
Some of the most common items on a bucket list include skydiving, taking a long road trip, streaking, snorkeling, learning another language, learning to play a musical instrument, skinny dipping, visiting one of the world’s wonders, swimming with dolphins or riding an elephant. What’s on your bucket list? What’s keeping you from checking items off?
You don’t have to do them all at once. Pick one and make it happen before the end of this year. Check out BucketList.net, which promotes itself as a place to share your dreams and network with others who may be able to help you achieve them.
Let me know what’s on your list. Mine is at the bottom of the post.
Talking about bucket lists got me thinking about why more people don’t make lists like this, and why – in general – they just don’t take action in their lives.
I believe the primary reason is fear of failure. If I don’t try something, I won’t fail, they believe. True enough. But you also will stay stuck where you are forever.
Whether you are at work, where you convince yourself that it’s not so bad, you have a job and you’re getting paid, or whether you have an untenable relationship with a spouse, friend or family member, you just let inertia take over.
Kevin Kleitches, in a Huffington Post article, agrees:
It’s not laziness that’s keeping you from your dreams, it’s fear. Fear is the brethren of passion. Fear is the reason your ideas disappear into the ether as quickly as they came — because taking action on them means putting yourself on the line. It means the very real possibility of trying for something and falling on your face…Every day you wake up, you have the ability to choose: Will you bring yourself closer to your goal, or will today just be another version of yesterday?
We need to reframe the idea of failure. It is not in the trying, it is in doing nothing.Failure Is Not The Opposite Of Success, It's A Stepping Stone. - Arianna Huffington Click To Tweet
Sometimes we just put off doing something because we think the reward for procrastination is greater than the reward for taking action. Anthony Venn-Brown writes,
Everyone procrastinates about something. Dishes, cleaning, tax, having that important but difficult conversation with someone. We procrastinate because we are rewarded in some way to put the task off till another time. The secret is to find out what that reward is and compare it to the reward of actually doing the task. The benefits of action are always greater in the long run than inaction. Being constantly reminded that we keep putting things off is like a power drain in our subconscious mind.
Let’s make a pact that this week we will make a change we’ve put off, or pick an item off our bucket list to work toward. We can do this. Let me know.
MY BUCKET LIST
- Travel to Colombia
- Travel to Italy
- Travel to France
- Travel to Ireland
- Travel to Germany
- Zipline the Green River Valley, NC
- Visit all 50 states (14 to go)
- Indoor skydiving
- Get a DNA test (waiting for results)
- Herd cattle at a ranch
- Learn to paint
- Learn pottery
- More to come…
- Travel to Belize
- Travel to Hawaii
- Travel to Japan
- Travel to England
- Travel to Canada
- Tour Napa Valley wineries
- Eat alligator
- Learn to use chopsticks
- Go on a cruise
- Fly a glider
- Snorkel a tropical barrier reef
- Swim with sharks, sea turtles and stingrays
- Explore caves
- Visit all 100 NC counties
- Visit Las Vegas
- Raft Class IV rapids
- Sail a boat
- Police ride along
- Be on radio and TV
- Run a 5K
- Run a 10K
- Create my own cocktail (it’s the Raspbellini – a jigger of Chambord and 5 ounces of Prosecco)
- Stand under a waterfall
- Learn to ballroom dance
- Write a book (two down, one underway)
- Learn guitar
- Learn harmonica
- Own foreign real estate
- Go to a pig-picking
- Go to a Low Country boil
- Walk a suspension bridge (Grandfather Mountain)